AFTERCARE AND SUPPORT GROUPS
Dealing with the death of a loved one.
When we lose a loved one, it is often a bewildering and difficult time
in our lives. At first we find ourselves in shock, and dealing with the
intense denial and strong emotions death can bring.
On
the other hand, we may feel emotionally numb, and overwhelmed with
disbelief. We may also experience the deep and unbearable pain of
grief. Yet throughout our grief it is good to keep the line of
communication open with our family and friends.
In
the days and weeks that follow the death of a loved one, we may
sometimes feel angry, sad, lonely, or depressed. We may be emotionally
and physically exhausted. It is during these times that we might feel
lost and out of control. We may endure times of restlessness, crying,
confusion and even nausea, but these are all normal responses to grief.
In
addition to these we may feel helpless and overwrought with guilt. We
may not be sleeping well. We may find changes in our appetite. We might
notice extreme mood swings, loss of motivation, irritability, and we
may even find that we are isolating ourselves.
The
event of loss is different for everyone. No two people grieve in the
same manner. We need to understand that it is a difficult task to
accept the reality of our loss, because we are hurting, and no one
likes to hurt. Trying to adjust to living without our loved one will
take time. Time for mourning. Time for healing. Time for resolution.
Some
suggestions that might be especially helpful during this time:
BEGIN
A JOURNAL:
Write in it as often as you can, especially when you feel depressed,
stressed, or lonely. Even something as simple as a composition book
will help you express your innermost thoughts, feelings, and concerns.
EAT A WELL BALANCED DIET:
Containing proper amounts of
complex carbohydrates, vegetables, fruits, proteins, and fat included
in a good breakfast and meals spaced evenly throughout the day. This
will keep you from losing your physical strength when your emotional
strength has worn thin.
EXERCISE DAILY: Make it a
priority. It is an antidote
to depression. Even a simple walk will help burn off residual stress
hormones that may be circulating in your body.
TALK TO PEOPLE: Stay connected
with positive people. Take time to meet with them. Spend time with
people who care about you.
GET PLENTY OF REST: Take the
time to relax throughout your daily routine.
GIVE YOURSELF THE GIFT OF TIME:
Each of us must follow our own timetable. Grief has no calendar. Grief
is a process, not to be hurried.
LAY HOLD OF FAITH: Trust that
God knows that your
heart is broken. Believe that his unfailing love, grace and mercy will
eventually enable you not only to live, but celebrate life once again.
Throughout that time, find refuge in the comforting arms of God's
unending compassion. As you journey though this most painful and
difficult time he has promised that he will not leave nor will he
forsake you.
The following pages were designed to provide you and your family with
services, of which most are free of charge. Please take advantage of
them if you or your family is grieving the loss of a loved one. That is
why they are there.
Each of these support groups will be more than glad to help you. Many
of these groups also offer counseling, support, information and
education to help during times of loss and grief. Simply call to check
on dates and times. (author Chris Luthey)
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